thepixelizer 2025-02-15 23:30:58

Does it really matter about what people think?

thepixelizer 2025-02-16 13:42:08

@Ryantenrec
I think it’s important to be aware of how you think about yourself, and to be honest with yourself.
Know your weaknesses and strengths and don’t judge yourself for them.

You don’t need to be big and prove you’re better than the crowd for people to notice and accept you. In fact you don’t really have control over that at all.

How do I know this? I used to go to a community center I talked to everyone and made them laugh and helped them constantly eventually lots of people recognized me. And I made a few close friendships.

Yet I still felt alone.

Then this one close friend said something that really hit me.
I don’t remember it word for word but he said something like “we know you’re a funny guy.”
Which gave me the impression that I was being a bit over bearing. And needed to stop.

Sure I had a whole community who liked me but I didn’t really know who I was and I still thought that I was nothing even though I “ideally” had everything I wanted.
But I didn’t have what I needed.

The exact same thing happened for finding internet fame. I reached my goal of 100 followers online on my first account but I still was empty and thought that I was nothing.

The only time I felt at peace from that was when I decided accept myself good and bad.

All that show boating, trying to please everyone was just putting on an act I was smiling on the outside but I wasn’t on the inside.

One thing they hardly ever tell you to do in this world is to learn to be your own friend.
Not everyone else’s.

thepixelizer 2025-02-18 02:30:51

@Ryantenrec I don't really have all the answers as I'm still new to figuring this myself I picked up a few things along the way though, I learned to be gentle with myself and not beat myself up when I make mistakes or fail. When I had the habit of doing that I thought that I could never do anything right which made me mad at myself.

That's not true if you fail you'll learn all the ways how to not do something. Which is gives you more experience than if you would if you did it right on the first try.

I also learned how to not compare myself to others, such as their success, happiness, possessions, social position, or status. When I did that I never felt like anything I ever did or made ever mattered.

But that's not true every good deed has it's reward and everything you make has an impact even if it's only just for one person.

The biggest thing that helped me is to listen to my own thoughts and recognize if they're negative or positive or not and to question if negative things I thought or come to know about myself were actually true or even up to date or not. And ask what would it feel like if someone else told me that?

You don't have to be happy all the time that's a lot of pressure to put on yourself don't you think? You don't have to be wise, well balanced, famous, smart, rich, peaceful 24/7, known in history, or even have your future planned out. Alot of those things people don't really have 100% control over anyway and are only temporary.